Comments on: I’m Now Going to Be An A** on Facebook http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/ Drew Meyers Sat, 04 Feb 2012 06:30:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Personal Business, Business Personality, and Social Media | GeekEstate Blog http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-529539 Personal Business, Business Personality, and Social Media | GeekEstate Blog Tue, 17 Aug 2010 10:56:58 +0000 http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/#comment-529539 [...] I realized there does need to be a subtle, but distinct line between the two for me. In my case, I no longer accept Facebook friend requests from people I haven’t met in person or talked to o... (and I’ve grouped my connections and given each their own privacy settings). Sorry if you [...] [...] I realized there does need to be a subtle, but distinct line between the two for me. In my case, I no longer accept Facebook friend requests from people I haven’t met in person or talked to o… (and I’ve grouped my connections and given each their own privacy settings). Sorry if you [...]

]]> By: Drew meyers http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-475566 Drew meyers Wed, 03 Jun 2009 11:59:57 +0000 http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/#comment-475566 Very funny ines :) David- I'm definitely not advocating not using Facebook to increase your social capital. I do it, and think it's smart for others to do so as well. What led me to write this is that many re pros are going about it all wrong. Do the ones who "friend" me get any value out of doing so (other than having me be one more person in their "network")? Do I get any value from them being my friend? I think the answer to both is no, unless they (or I) take the time to get to know the other person. Without that step, i don't know the 1st thing about them - so of course I'd never send business their way. Very funny ines :)

David-
I’m definitely not advocating not using Facebook to increase your social capital. I do it, and think it’s smart for others to do so as well. What led me to write this is that many re pros are going about it all wrong. Do the ones who “friend” me get any value out of doing so (other than having me be one more person in their “network”)? Do I get any value from them being my friend? I think the answer to both is no, unless they (or I) take the time to get to know the other person. Without that step, i don’t know the 1st thing about them – so of course I’d never send business their way.

]]> By: David G http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-475422 David G Wed, 03 Jun 2009 05:19:44 +0000 http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/#comment-475422 Funny ... my head's been moving in the opposite direction on this one lately. I've seen such value from the publicity of twitter (and blogging (for other people ;-)) that I'm now questioning the value of anything published online that isn't public (and properly attributed.) I mean really, anything that can't be publicized could just as well happen f2f or over the phone - both of which are still far better ways to build close relationships than what asynchronous posting to a closed website is. Celebrities have lived like this for decades. The fb audience is just too valuable not to leverage it to increase your social capital. This takes us back to Granoveter's strength of weak ties and the fact that fb's become such a powerful social publishing platform. Logically, the biggest potential to benefit from your fb activity is to open it up (or, as they (fb) would say; use their filters to only hide that small portion of your errr .... photo album that you want to keep a secret.) Obviously I realize that there are going to be douchebags (yes, I said "douchebags") who abuse your publicity. But I'd argue that the same thing can happen IRL (and that your IRL "friends" can frankly also screw you tx to fb if they want to.) It's just that, as with the rest of social media, the benefits to publicity outweigh the costs 99.9999% of the time. I'm still mulling this over but think there's a strong argument for opening up your facebook (and starting a scrapbook at home for the photo's you don't want on the web.) Funny … my head’s been moving in the opposite direction on this one lately. I’ve seen such value from the publicity of twitter (and blogging (for other people ;-) ) that I’m now questioning the value of anything published online that isn’t public (and properly attributed.) I mean really, anything that can’t be publicized could just as well happen f2f or over the phone – both of which are still far better ways to build close relationships than what asynchronous posting to a closed website is. Celebrities have lived like this for decades. The fb audience is just too valuable not to leverage it to increase your social capital.

This takes us back to Granoveter’s strength of weak ties and the fact that fb’s become such a powerful social publishing platform. Logically, the biggest potential to benefit from your fb activity is to open it up (or, as they (fb) would say; use their filters to only hide that small portion of your errr …. photo album that you want to keep a secret.)

Obviously I realize that there are going to be douchebags (yes, I said “douchebags”) who abuse your publicity. But I’d argue that the same thing can happen IRL (and that your IRL “friends” can frankly also screw you tx to fb if they want to.) It’s just that, as with the rest of social media, the benefits to publicity outweigh the costs 99.9999% of the time.

I’m still mulling this over but think there’s a strong argument for opening up your facebook (and starting a scrapbook at home for the photo’s you don’t want on the web.)

]]> By: ines http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-475417 ines Wed, 03 Jun 2009 05:06:44 +0000 http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/#comment-475417 "I’m no longer going to accept friend requests on Facebook from people I have not met in person or at least spoken with over the phone. Sorry to those I ignore in advance."....with the exception of those that wear silly hats (come on....there needs to be an out to the A**) “I’m no longer going to accept friend requests on Facebook from people I have not met in person or at least spoken with over the phone. Sorry to those I ignore in advance.”….with the exception of those that wear silly hats (come on….there needs to be an out to the A**)

]]> By: Beth Kanter http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-208352 Beth Kanter Sun, 03 Aug 2008 22:55:03 +0000 http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/#comment-208352 Hi ya, A colleague, Dave Schappell, suggested I add your mykro to a list of gen y blogs about philanthropy. Anyway, I saw your post here - and I just wrote about this issue too - although slightly different take - http://beth.typepad.com/beths_blog/2008/07/what-are-your-t.html Did you see the article in the HBR about this? Beth Hi ya,

A colleague, Dave Schappell, suggested I add your mykro to a list of gen y blogs about philanthropy. Anyway, I saw your post here – and I just wrote about this issue too – although slightly different take –
http://beth.typepad.com/beths_blog/2008/07/what-are-your-t.html

Did you see the article in the HBR about this?

Beth

]]> By: arjun http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/comment-page-1/#comment-204339 arjun Fri, 01 Aug 2008 23:16:59 +0000 http://www.drewmeyersinsights.com/2008/07/29/im-now-going-to-be-an-a-on-facebook/#comment-204339 Hooray! You're not an arse, that's the only way Facebook remains valuable for you, buddy :-) Hooray! You’re not an arse, that’s the only way Facebook remains valuable for you, buddy :-)

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